How to Heal from a Broken Heart

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A friend of mine is in a serious heartbreak situation right now. Few nights ago, we had an [unplanned] dinner together and that’s where everything flowed. All the pain she felt is part of the process but at the end of the day, we need to realize that no matter how painful and how crushed our heart is, we must always learn to go back to the One who never ceased to love and be with us in all our joys and sorrows… and that is our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ.

I, myself, have my own share of heartbreaks. Heartbreaks from a first love, from an almost lover, from somebody who walked away, or a loss of a loved one. However, these heartbreaks, no matter how painful they got, have something in store for us – a lesson, a learning experience.

The Definitive Introvert Type Test

Part of my usual FB feed scrolling is randomly taking online quizzes. Just now, a friend shared one named “The Definitive 25 Question Introvert Type Test”. Out of curiosity, I took the test.

In this test, you are given situational statements and if you are in that situation, you have to rate yourself from 1 (Not At All) to 4 (Very Much). The link says you may get any of the following results:

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I gave away the answers that first popped in my mind. And I got, “The Protector” Introvert Type.

So, what is “The Protector” Introvert Type?

“This introvert type is quite unique, as many of your personality qualities defy the definition of your individual traits. Though you’re deeply emotional, you have excellent analytical abilities; though introverted, you have well-developed people skills and robust social relationships; and though you are somewhat conservative, you are often receptive to change and new ideas. You are a true altruist, meeting kindness with kindness-in-excess and engaging the work and people you believe in with enthusiasm and generosity! You can literally save the world!”

I don’t know if I totally agree to that – well, maybe I agreed at around 90% of it.

Are you an introvert? Try taking the quiz HERE. Let me know if we got the same type or which type you got.

Carpe diem,
Jhen

Sunday Currently 01

Summer has ended and I am hit with the reality that I won’t be having the time of my life going to the beach or any getaway soon because it’s June – which means another semester in graduate school is approaching and I’ll be busy again with additional school work (this is my last semester so I am crossing my fingers to get it done and over with!)

Right now, let’s forget about past and future things for a while and see what I am currently being busy with. Thus, my first Sunday Currently entry in this blog. I have been doing these Sunday Currently entries in my former blog. And while I keep myself committed to this one, I will try my (very) best to consistently do it.

To give you an idea on what “Sunday Currently” is about, well, I actually discovered this from Maine Mendoza’s blog (yep, I am a fan, so to the haters, shooooo away!) and found out that it is a trend set by Siddathornton. Link-up your entries here: Join The Sunday Currently link-up by siddathornton!

So, let’s start!

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reading The Unexpected Everything by Morgan Matson. What made me read this book was actually the cover page. I once went to a bookstore in a nearby mall and I was so attracted with the cover because of the dogs! But I got no extra money to buy it at that time, so I decided to download an e-book. To see how the cover looks like and read reviews about the book, visit Goodreads.

Recharge

I’ve been through a lot of stress lately, especially at work. I got to the point where I cried out my frustrations and allowed madness to take over me. However, letting in the negativity did not help. I kept ranting to a colleague, I kept making excuses to not take full responsibility of problems at hand. I wanted to escape.

Whenever I am faced with a trial, it is normal for me to shut the rest of the world off. It doesn’t always mean when I am not talking or not smiling at you, I am taking life too seriously. I need people to understand that it is my way to recharge, to take time to think and process whether all that I did and will do were and are the right things to do.

This past two weeks were probably the most difficult I’ve been involved with in terms of my job. I thought I’ve encountered the most awful ones in my previous employer but this one’s probably is the worst situation I’ve been in. Not to disclose any information on it though, but honestly, I felt so trapped – I did not know what to do. I had no one who can fully understand to share it with. Well, I actually do, but they are not physically present to empathize with me. What I did was I kept everything to myself, bravely thinking, “I can get through this.” until I realized that, “No, I can’t. I need help.. right now.”

F i n a l l y ?

Finally! The semester is over and I can finally have my weeknights and weekends free from all the hassles and burdensome graduate school requirements. Aaaaaand it’s time to “finally finally” devote my time for reading, writing, and… blogging!

I’ve got so much long overdue stories to share! From having a new job to events I got into, and some other things that kept me busy lately (which, I admit, includes being too engrossed in watching Korean dramas – yep).

I try not to promise but I am going to do my best to actually share my stories every week. And with reading, I am actually searching on the internet what book would be great to read. Something that’s not as draggy as the one I recently finished reading. Any suggestions, guys?

Looking forward to the following days… 🙂

And I am now on regular status in my new job. See how outdated you are, bloggy.

Carpe diem,
Jhen

Getting Back on Track

Okay… I felt kinda embarrassed with myself as I opened WordPress again (after 2 months). I know I have committed to write more often but turns out, I haven’t. And so here I am trying my best to update.

What was up? I THINK I am probably the busiest, if not, laziest person I have been the past few months. Busiest – because I have too much stuff going on with my work (as I am still adjusting and in transition) and school which I have too many requirements and paper work to deal with. Laziest – because honestly, whenever I come home from work, I hurriedly prepare myself for bed and neglect any pending things I need to do. I JUST WANT TO SLEEP RIGHT AWAY. I know it’s not a good thing. I am pretty well aware of that. I procrastinate a lot and I admit I somehow have lost my time management skills and it is totally not helping me. I even forget (intentionally, most of the time) to do household chores.

This week, it may be weird for you, I looked at the mirror and told myself, “When are you going to wake up, girl? It’s you, you alone can get yourself back on track. This is not your usual self. Go and find yourself  again.”

It was amazing how God works because while I was looking at the mirror, I was actually kneeling down – which reminds me that I am in the right position to start everything anew again. The first step was so clear to me… and that is to pray. Oh how great God is! After I prayed, I received a message from my mom on Messenger. She was sharing how her day went. Our daily random chat consists of anything we can talk about. But that day was different as she suddenly shared to me something about being an inspiration to others – on a daily basis or if not, even in the smallest things we do. She continued, reminding me how important it is to glorify God in all that I do because everything that we do for God’s glory could inspire others.

I admit my heart melted at the moment. That was what I totally needed. I remembered a bible verse saying exactly that. As I grabbed my bible to check it out, an old bookmark fell. It was a bookmark given by our team leader during our church’s Triple “S” Baptist Youth Camp in 2011. And oh how God spoke to me that day! The bookmark says:

1 Corinthians 10:31 “Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.”

That day, I have decided to get myself back on track and do everything for God’s glory… and to avoid complaining just because of restlessness and keep in mind that complaining will not do me any good and it will not glorify Him.

So far, I have managed to cope with the stress life brings and just be optimistic about anything that’s happening around me. Being spiritually-guided helped me get back on track.

I am eternally grateful for God’s presence in my life – be it through my family or in the smallest occurrences that happen in my daily life.

I am inspired again… because God is my eternal inspiration and I should hold on to His promises for with God, all things are possible (Matthew 19:26).

Carpe diem,
Jhen

After Idling

Heyaaa! I am sooo so back. I just realized that my last post was already 2 months ago. My schedule was so full, I haven’t had any time to actually sit down and open my laptop and update. So what was up after September?

In case you know me personally, you know I have left my first job and I got a new one! My transition started last October 3rd (which basically explains why I was busy).

I admit it was kinda difficult to leave my previous company at a time when my team was challenged. Honestly, I have thought of whether I should stay or leave months prior to my resignation. I have been praying for God to answer me in the right time. Until a good opportunity knocked on my door and yep, you thought it right, I let it in.

Goodbyes are difficult but I haven’t let the goodbyes hold me back from getting into something new – something that could help me mold my fullest potentials and put them into great use. I believe my three years of stay in my previous company was already enough for me to finally explore a world apart from it. I am grateful though. If it hadn’t been for my previous job and for my colleagues, I wouldn’t be the type of career person I am right now.

Currently, I am happy with where I am connected. Although it is a challenge for me to handle a position that performs general HR tasks, I have accepted it lightly because I know I’ll learn so much from it. And I am so thankful I have really good and accommodating colleagues that made it easy for me to adjust to the new environment.

This new phase of my life has made me let go of the stresses I once felt and this is the kind of job I have always wanted where every ounce of sweat and hard work is all worth it — and I hope to sustain it for the longest time. Aaaaand what is greate is that I’ve no need to worry about my school on weekends.. and I get to travel a lot! Yay!

I am continuously praying to God to always give me strength in my new career, to always make me productive, and never give up.This is a really wonderful blessing for me and I will forever be grateful.

Carpe diem,
Jhen