How to Heal from a Broken Heart

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A friend of mine is in a serious heartbreak situation right now. Few nights ago, we had an [unplanned] dinner together and that’s where everything flowed. All the pain she felt is part of the process but at the end of the day, we need to realize that no matter how painful and how crushed our heart is, we must always learn to go back to the One who never ceased to love and be with us in all our joys and sorrows… and that is our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ.

I, myself, have my own share of heartbreaks. Heartbreaks from a first love, from an almost lover, from somebody who walked away, or a loss of a loved one. However, these heartbreaks, no matter how painful they got, have something in store for us – a lesson, a learning experience.

Most of the time, we ask why we experience such pain. Why do we need to deal with heartbreak even though we’ve given what we can give… and why do we end up losing? Often, we don’t get the answers we want and need to hear so we end up blaming ourselves for what happened, and make up excuses why it happened. But, have you eventually tried to do something worthwhile that could help you get through the pain?

When my friend shared how she is at a really bad phase, all the things that happened to me when I was in that exact same moment as her flashed back. I remembered how I chose to suppress all my feelings and diverted my attention to more important things but still failed to heal even though I tried my hardest to let go and move on. And when all the ways I can think of didn’t work the way I thought they would, I fully decided to turn and surrender all my fears, all my deepest grief and pain, and all of my other negative feelings to God. That was the moment when I realized how wounds can be healed – perfectly healed by our ultimate Healer. And eventually, everything fell into place… and I have learned that I am worth more than any heartbreak that came after that. That’s how I got through it all – by taking everything to the Lord in prayer.

After the dinner I had with my friend, I am already at loss of words to comfort her so I searched some Christian articles online about “dealing with heartbreak” and I found one that could be of great help and shared it to her. I am sharing it to you now. It indicates a list on how to heal from a broken heart (see below):

  • Change your feelings through changing your thoughts.
  • Turn to God alone for comfort.
  • Focus your devotion on God. 
  • Derive your sense of security from your relationship with God.
  • Let go of regrets.
  • Keep up with your daily responsibilities.
  • Serve other hurting people. 
  • Avoid sinful responses to rejection. 
  • Choose kindness and forgiveness. 
  • Deal with your own sins against your ex. 
  • Remove unnecessary reminders of your ex from your life.
  • Get rid of self-pity and embrace gratitude. 
  • Turn your worries into prayers. 
  • Grow more content with your life. 
  • Be patient. 

That was just a glimpse of the article, if you want to read more about it, click HERE. Indeed, with God, all things are possible. And healing from a heartbreak is possible.

I am ending this entry by giving you the following verses (go grab your [KJV] Bible and read):

  • Proverbs 3:5-6
  • Psalm 34:18; 41:4; 147:3
  • Revelation 21:4
  • John 14:27
  • Matthew 11:28-30

Journaling,
Jhen