Cooling Down and Letting Go of Anger

Photo credit: Hey Hay PH – Mental Health Support

As I was scrolling through my Facebook feed, I came across the image above saying how it helps one’s anger cool down if s/he ignores talking about it in 48 hours. As they say, when you are driven by your emotions, you will most likely say the wrong words, do things impulsively, and make the wrong decisions.

I, then, reflected on how I deal with my temper. I laughed and told myself, “Ha! I wish my temper could extend that long.” I consider myself as a very patient person. I would like to believe that those who know me agree (I hope so). Most of the time when I am mad, I usually do not talk and be silent for around a maximum of 10 minutes and after that, I talk to the person right away and change the subject.

I asked myself why and dug deep. Maybe because I am a person who dislikes both disagreements and holding grudges against others. I always (as much as possible) extend my utmost understanding and reflect on the situation – is it worth my time and energy being mad?

The downside of which – it makes me gullible (I know, I know) – I keep getting that – it is being taken advantage of. And while I am okay with it, I always forgive myself for being unapologetically forgiving despite being taken that way.

However, I put an end to it when I know it is already too much. Too much that it hurts, that it brings-me-to-tears kind of anger, that it has totally torn my trust and patience apart. In reality, I did end a friendship to 2 of my former friends who I considered really close to me but betrayed me (and my other friends) when I never thought they would. Not spilling any details about it but having the friendship over gave healing.

Going back to the 48-hour cooling down or maybe for you, it’s less or more – do give time to cool down and let your anger go! Distancing yourself away from someone or something that made you angry brings peace. Believe me, it’s true when they say, “Don’t speak when you’re angry. You can never take back words said in anger.”

Jhen